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Dear Friends, Welcome to our May edition of the CFI Newsletter. We hope that you find our articles and announcements helpful.
Featured Articles:
  1. Dr. Dale Doty discusses the importance of TRUST as an issue related to relationships and counseling in a two-part article. Part one is included in this newsletter.
  2. We introduce a new Newsletter series of questions we are frequently asked in regards to the field of counseling.
  3. Announcing CAPS speaking engagement for professionals by Bowden McElroy "Ethical Dangers in the Digital Age."
Trust Is A Clinical Issue

An issue often encountered in treating relationships is the problem of mistrust. Most often the problem arises in the context of some boundary violation that has occurred in a relationship. Behaviors that are most damaging are easily recognized such as infidelity, inappropriate use of the internet such as viewing pornography or emailing or texting some sexual or romantic content without a partners knowledge, or lies of almost any sort. Some preliminary research has indicated that a partner lying about finances was nearly as damaging to trust as sexual impropriety.

Common patterns that produce broken trust include:

Deliberate acts by a partner who knows full well that their behavior will be unacceptable to their partner.

Misunderstanding occurs when partners miscommunicate.

Accidental relationship injuries occur when there is a momentary lapse in judgment. A partner may not recognize the significance of their choices to their partner.

Unrealistic expectations by one partner may cause damage to trust to both parties.

Ineffective communication and conflict resolution fails to lower distress, thus resulting in unresolved differences.

The inability to forgive sustains high levels of relationship anxiety.


To view this article in its entirety, click here.


In Part Two of this article, Dr. Doty will discuss:

A Systemic View of Rebuilding Trust


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From time to time, we are asked questions about the field of mental health, families, communication, etc. In this newsletter we are featuring two FAQ's written by our staff. We hope you find these useful and will check our website for further FAQ's.

Is anxiety/depression hereditary?

This is the age-old question of nature vs. nurture. Are mood disorders (depression/anxiety) a result of nature (genetics/brain chemistry) or nurture (upbringing/environment)?

It may be beneficial to think in terms of risk factors: the more risk factors that are present, the more likely depression or anxiety is to develop. Having family members with a mood disorder may elevate the risk, but it doesn't doom someone to the disorder.

At Christian Family Institute we view anxiety and depression as a combination of biological, psychological, social and spiritual factors. All of these components are considered when treating mood disorders.

What is the age to teach children about sex?

You can't begin too soon. Sex education is not a single tell-all discussion. When a child's curiosity about body parts begins, open the door to sex education by teaching the proper names of his/her anatomy. This is also an appropriate time to explain which parts of the body are private and that no one is allowed to touch these private parts.

Having open and honest discussions with your child about a variety of topics will normalize the topic of sex when it is addressed.


For these and more FAQ's, please take a moment to visit our site.

Bowden McElroy to Speak at The Christian Association for Psychological Studies (CAPS)- "Ethical Dangers in the Digital Age"
Bowden McElroy will explain where digital media and Mental Health Professional Ethics intersect and how to manage one's digital communications without violating professional responsibilities. Concerns regarding your "web presence", digital communications and confidentiality, and social media considerations will be discussed. When: Friday, May 20, 2011, 1:00-4:30 p.m. including a break and presentation evaluation. Where: Asbury Methodist Church, 6767 South Mingo, Room 2820 Cost: $30 for current CAPS members, $50 for non-members. (Continuing education fee included.) Cost is $15 for students and/or those who do not request CE. For a PDF description of the workshop click here. Bowden McElroy image
If we can be of service, please contact CFI to set up a time to consult with one of our counselors. We also provide psychological assessments and evaluations for ADHD and educational needs as well as pre-marital evaluations and counseling. To view our full range of services, please visit
Dr. Tim Doty image Timothy Doty, Psy.D. on behalf of Christian Family Institute Our Staff includes: Dale R. Doty, Ph.D. William B. Berman, Ph.D. G. Bowden McElroy, M.Ed. Eric L. Clements, M.S. Salley Sutmiller, M.S. Lois K. Trost, M.S.W. Jamie Brandon, M.S. Amber R. Sherrell, M.S. Timothy D. Doty, Psy.D. Krista Caveny, M.A. Stephen Harnish, M.D.  
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